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I watched a skit in which a wife was shot down and her husband took off.
Someone will say that he vowed to protect her. In response, I say those vows need to go in the dustbin. Why?
Those vows were cooked up back when men were hunters and warriors by vocation. From youth, men were trained to handle situations of violence, and to fight.
Humanity has since evolved. In the 21st century, men are trained now to read and write, do maths, and play football.
Even if the husband had a gun at home, the sensible thing to do would be to not make himself a target first. Hide, then find a way to get your gun and pop the assailant if the opportunity presents itself.
As a matter of fact, trained police officers and military personnel will not be foolhardy to charge at someone holding a gun. The first rule of safety for trained law enforcement is to not be foolish around someone with a gun.
But you want an unarmed husband to go and fight someone holding a gun because the person shot his wife. Are you okay?
See, even if the assailant wasn’t holding a gun and was just an agbero with chest and muscles, do you really think that Emeka, Abubakar, and Tunji who have never thrown a punch in their lives will be able to hold their own against a guy who regularly brawls on the streets of Mushin? Dey play.
We raise our sons to not fight back at home, at school, or on the streets. We forbid them from rough, violent play, and we drum it into their ears that such activities are “toxic masculinity”, but then we magically expect that when they become men they will be able to fight to protect their women? Nah. You cannot eat your cake and have it. That chivalrous image you have in your head does not exist in reality any more.
Those marriage vows are grossly outdated and need to go in the dustbin. Your stone age expectations of men need to be buried for good. The 21st century man is not equipped or trained to protect anyone or anything, including himself. Selah.
